Miss Understood

Miss Understood 

“Sit properly”; “don't you know you should be helping in the kitchen”; “give up on your education and try to find someone to begin your family with”; “you are a girl don’t talk loud”; “try to whiten your skin you will eventually find someone good to settle with”; “what! you dont wanna get married? Shouldn't it be the first priority of every woman to be a bride?”. A woman has always been tormented with all of these taunts. We live in a world where we find hypocritical people who preach and speak about equality but will somehow criticise others. We keep saying that a woman's role in society has evolved from someone who had no right to work, to now having their own companies and being successful entrepreneurs, but has society entirely accepted the capabilities of women? Well, a few villages, towns and cities have allowed their daughters, mothers and wives to be themselves by allowing them to work but the remaining have still remained patriarchal. 

I wont say my life as a female/ a young woman of 18 years is anything less of a hassle, because it is. Like every woman in this world, I knew I had to prove myself to the people who questioned my well being, but how could i prove the people around me if my parents weren't ready to believe that a women is much more capable of doing whatever they wanted without a man, how could I make my parents acknowledge the fact that if a man is allowed to roam around shirtless, then why is a woman not allowed to wear crop tops??? 

No matter what I did there always seemed to be someone who would find me too chatty for a girl, speaking or standing up for myself wasn't something that was ever allowed, it always seemed as if I was talking back, when all I tried to do was just prove my point. My looks weren’t something that people kept quiet on as well, it was always you’re too fat or you have a lot of acne marks on your face. I'm sorry, but I can't help with the features that I'm gifted with and I can't say ‘NO’  to how puberty has to work for my body.

It was only a few years ago that I thought and asked myself, why is a woman always a target in situations, why can't she just live her life the way a man lives, which book states the differences in etiquettes for men and women, and even if there is a book then what proof has been provided that the statements in that book are valid and are framed out of some reason?? The younger me who considered being a girl a curse is now enjoying every moment fighting for her right, knowing that will only make me stronger and more satisfied with the difference I've done for the women around me.

I know that there are so many women out there that are going through the same thing, and maybe even worse. There is no limit to what we women can do, there is no limit limit to us making a difference, there is no limit to us being whatever we want to be and however we want to accomplish our goals, and Maya Angelou has stated it right, “each time a woman stands up for herself, without knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she stands up for all women."